This week I suddenly realised that I have to a large extent created the life I wanted for myself. (And yes, of course there’s room for growth!)
Right now I’m living in a beautiful cottage in a beautiful village – something I’ve wanted for a long time. I am surrounded by nature, peace and quiet – all very important to me. I worked a few hours this morning and then went for a walk in a forest nearby. Now I’m writing the e-zine that you’re reading and then I’ll work a few more hours after lunch. I always wanted the freedom to decide when, where and how to work. I am collaborating with very interesting people on interesting projects; I travel around the country and the world teach, present and see private clients – exactly the way I want to.
I get to decide where to spend my energy and how to spend my time.
Now before you think that’s just me, think again; there was a time when I didn’t think that this would ever be possible for me. But isn’t it true for you too, that you get to decide how and where to apply yourself in life? Underneath the justifications and excuses, I mean?
What do you really want in your life and and even more importantly, why?
Here are the four steps that helped me to get where I am and I’m hoping they’ll help you too.
STEP 1: DECIDE
It has to start with a decision and only you can decide that you’re worth it so here’s my question to you: when will you decide that you want what you want and that it’s possible for you to achieve it?
A lot of people think they’ll do it ‘one day’. The problem with that is that ‘one day’ usually never comes.
STEP 2: COMMIT (NO MATTER WHAT)
Once you’ve decided that you’re going to create what you want you have to commit – no matter what.
Waiting for your dream life to appear all by itself is like standing on a cliff side waiting for a bridge to appear. That’s not the way life works.
It’s when you take that step or leap into the unknown that the bridge appears as if by magic; it’s about having faith that you’ll be ok no matter what happens. It’s important to realise that even after that the road is not always easy, comfortable or paved with gold; success is falling down four times and getting up five and sometimes it sucks!
I’ve had lots of disappointments and apparent ‘failures’ since I’ve started my business and at times I felt like giving up. And then I got up again and reminded myself of where I was heading, of my dream, and why that was important to me.
So when it comes to your dreams and goals, what are you willing to commit to and what may you need to give up for it?
STEP 3: ACT
Taking action is a critical step and it’s true that successful people often do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do. However, it’s about taking the right action; I could only build my business because I got professional help from a brilliant business coach who could help me with my next step, and then the next step, and the next one.
Some people get stuck because the actions required seem huge or they’re not sure where to start; if that’s true for you then start with something small but here’s the secret: do it today; make that phone call, send that email or have that conversation, today!
STEP 4: ALLOW
No matter how hard you work you can always sabotage your own success.
To be truly successful (whatever success means to you) you have to allow it to come to you, you have to believe and know within yourself that you are worth it, that you deserve it and that you can create or attract it.
It is possible to achieve what you want… if you say so. And it does not always come about the way you think it will – more about this next time.
If you’re still not sure that you can make a difference you may enjoy this clip by Leo Buscaglia; just click on the picture and it will open in a new window; it’s an old clip and as relevant now as it ever was!
To win a previously read copy of A Path With Heart by Jack Kornfield, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org by 18 July 2010 with the decisions you’re making right now about achieving your goals and dreams.
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I have one more client discovery session today and then it’s weekend – yay! Wherever you are and whatever you do, I hope that you too will find something to do today that you enjoy.
PS) Thanks to those who emailed me about what you would have done in my decision in Disney World. I took the 2nd day out for myself, recharged my batteries and was able to rejoin my family for a great last day!
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